A friend once asked me “when and how do you know it’s time to go ? ” and I remembered telling him “you will know when it’s time”. Some months ago, I found myself in the same situation,then I told myself it is time to pack my baggage and leave. I just knew right down in my guts.
The joy of the moment
When we begin a relationship with someone I don’t think we take our time to think when it would be over or do we ever think it would be over . It’s all joy, love and happiness in the beginning or sometimes little quarrels in the hopes of things getting better with time . When it crosses our minds,it’s so when we doubt if what we are having at the time is real or in fear of the person changing because “he is too good to be true”.
but then it eventually comes to an end.
Our storms
My focus is when do you finally say goodbye , to all the hopes you built time after time with the person you loved ?. In every relationship,even with your own parents, there comes a storm, and the question is are there a lot of damages after these storms ? Do things get swept away by these storms? Things so important that we forget the sweets in the relationship with our love one(s)?
But my answer is, strong relationships withstand storms no matter how strong the storm was or no matter what was gone with the storm.
The excuses
If after petty quarrels and misunderstandings things don’t get settled and your partner keeps clinging on to past mistakes you’ve made and comments you’ve said sorry to, a thousand times ,I bet you should reconsider your stay in that relationship. First of all you should always have in mind that love keeps no record of evil. It is natural when the love is coming from the heart. And 1corinthians 13:5 (of the Christian bible) talks about what true love looks like and it characteristics, you should check it out!.
When he still hangs old things on you after you have apologized and never repeated it ,then he just wants a bases to leave you or to remind you he is doing you a favor by staying and who wants to feel that way?.
Red flags and signs
Maybe he doesn’t hang things on you , but does other things that makes you think or doubt your choice or decision of going out with him. If you feel you are putting too much into the relationship and you know without doubt that you are actually the one holding things together and making things work all the time without him doing anything to help after pointing it out to him severally , then you may reconsider planning on spending the rest of your life with this fellow. This fellow can’t call it a quit with you two, with fear of breaking your heart and being the bad guy . So he is just discouraging you from building anything with him by being the problem .
When you feel you put him first in everything and he doesn’t , please it’s time to raise the red flag. He doesn’t want you anymore. It could be that circumstances are making him act that way ,but when you figure it isn’t the case ,then you should move on with your life.
The material
Some people are just not what you think they are anymore and the sooner you realise it the better.
He is handsome (so what?) yet has an ugly state of mind . He is rich(so what?) yet he lacks manners on how to treate you.
He becomes a whole lot of things once he think he has you under control, he has you where he thinks you can’t go. And if what only ties or keeps you two together is damaging you either slowly or at a faster rate , you better start loving yourself like you do him or less . One who clearly loves you would do you no harm .
Would you just on a normal day burn yourself up , all psychological matters excluded ? If the answer is no then you love yourself and burning yourself is going to hurt you so you know better .
Time for you and the bail out
We put the need of our partners before us and not stopping to think if he does same for us.
You do not always need your gut to tell you to bail out . You at a point have to consider yourself and your present situation and your future and make that decision and get packing . Once you are sure of your decision, announce your leaving and stand by it . And if he didn’t beg for a comeback as expected, he wasn’t worth it after all .
Do not stay considering what has been lost ,leave with the hopes of saving what is left.
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